Random

I love Betty White!  She is hilarious.
***
The other night I was trying to tweeze a whisker from my chin and Kaj asked what I was doing and he goes "Mommy just let it ride."
***
I remember my last boyfriend before I was with my husband.  He was a super nice guy, I absolutely loved him, I love his family, and I could totally see spending the rest of my life with him.  Then my husband came along and I was a little frustrated with my current "kind of" a boyfriend not wanting to move forward with life.  I was starting to really get that no body was going to get him to move forward in life (something that is still frustrating) but you can't change people.  They will never change.  You might get lucky that they change but you can never expect anything to change.  People are who they are.  So actually the whole thing set me up pretty well for falling for my husband.  He accepts you the way you are and don't think for a moment that you will have any chance of changing him.  If you want him to change then you are just going to need to go somewhere else.  But all through that my sister never said I told you so.  When I had my "kind of" a boyfriend she was not comfortable hanging out with him or his family.  For a short period of time she would but I could tell that she just didn't want to be around me with them.  And she told me too.  When we broke up she was relieved because now we could hang out again.  There was nothing said we just moved on with life and she enjoyed my new boyfriend and I feel that she is comfortable with us which is a highlight in my life.  We don't get to pick who our loved ones choose to love.  You just deal with it.  It doesn't mean that we are always all going to hang out and smoke the peace pipe.  It is an ever changing thing and when people are continuely forced to do things that is when people really start to have problems. 
For instance family functions where the people are there who want to be there and a couple who are there because it is their spousal duties is not a bad deal.  Only small amounts of guilt would have been applied to make that work.  When the guilt is layered on heavy and the expectations that everyone then is going to be happy about being forced to be somewhere, things are not going to go well.  Not at all.  Relax people.  We have an Uncle that didn't meet our step-mother until she had been married to my Dad for 7 years.  He came to visit when he wanted to and he had a fine time.  Had my Aunt loaded him in her car and drove up here before that I don't think that it would have gone so well.  As I recall he and my Aunt even drove seperately.  He likes to be able to go when he wants to go.  I think it was kind of unheard of for a woman to drive seperatly on a three hour drive, but my quiet Aunt wanted to spend a bit more time with her family.  At least that is how I assume it was.  We are a good Finnish family and actually discuss what does on is not something that we do. 
For instance, my Aunt got divorced and we didn't even know it happened until it was all done.  I would say that we are a close family but we that kind of stuff we don't bring up.  I even asked my Aunt B how Aunt D was doing and she shrugged her shoulders and said good I think.  THEY SPEND EVERY OTHER WEEKEND TOGETHER AND YOU AREN'T TOTALLY SURE HOW THE OTHER ONE IS DOING AND YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT HAPPENED IN THE MARRIAGE?! WHAT?!  I will give my Dad credit for trying to be the more communicative person in the family, but he only goes so far as to say if you need anything just let me know.  He never pries if after his first test question is met with a very short answer.  But that is how they were raised.  I remember one holiday we were leaving my Grandparents and my Grandpa was out getting the car ready for us and Grandma was getting us ready to go inside and she said "I am worried about Grandpa I just don't think he is doing very well"  and then outside Grandpa said "I am worried about Grandma I just don't think she is doing very well"  They sit right next to each other every day but they can't just ask each other or given and honest response.  Oh well what do you do.  I miss both of them very much.  It would be great to be going to their house for Christmas.
***
Apple juice controversy:  There is news out today that arsnic is in apple juice and unsafe levels of it.   We are poisoning our children.  Well it is always something new.  Here is the thing people "MODERATION".  Do not feed your children just apple juice all the time.  The same is true for sugar, cheese, ...a little bit of everything.  I seriously doubt the people making apple juice our trying to kill our kids.  And it is from apples or it is supposed to be so if apples have arsnic in them naturally then either that is how it is supposed to be or we have a bigger problem. 
***
I really could be a better speller.
***
I have been at my job for 6 years now.  I really like it, but I wonder with all the moving of jobs I have done before if I will get an itch and need to move on.
***
After having a crisis of my Mom dying when I was 13 and my sister 8 I find myself sometimes waiting for the next crisis.  It can really ruin my day when I am in that mode.
***
Journalling is a wonderful thing that I really need to do more of.
***
Hunger Games is a good book
***
I miss the old Nancy Drew and Trixie Belden books.  I wonder why I never got into the Hardy boys?
***
I am really enjoying my life.  Sometimes I could be more exciting but I am with my family so that tends to be plenty of excitment.
***
I feel bad for and mad at people you don't have any self confindence.  We are all wonderful people and our happiness does not depend on what someone else will do or not do.  Or on how we look or what we have.  Yes some of those things can make you happy for awhile.  If my husband does the dishes yes it makes me happy.  Yes I might be more inclined to do something for him, but it isn't a requirement to make me happy that he does the dishes.
***
I love all my Aunts.  But my Auntie K was wonderful during my wedding week.  Aunt B and Aunt D saved my butt as well during that week.  Really I wish they all lived closer because they are all very fun and relaxed people.
***
All of my Uncles current and form were pretty good guys too.  At least from what I remember.
***
I think perhaps I should stop at this point I can always write more later.
***
-M