Being a parent is hard being a step-parent is way harder. I am not complaining I have a great step-daughter and we get along great. But it is a fine line that you are always walking. I might dive into that more later.
I have a bit of a dilema. I have a friend that has a boyfriend that is a nice enough guy. But early on in their relationship I had a bad feeling that I shared with my friend and I have for the most part been good about not bringing it up again. My friend is just going to have to figure out on her own whether this is how she wants to spend the rest of her life. Like I said he isn't a bad guy. So another buddy had the opportunity to hang out with the boyfriend. When the buddy got back from hanging out with my friend's boyfriend he said that all the boyfriend talked about was how much stuff he had gotten his girlfriend to buy him, the boyfriend also never paid for his lunch that day or gas and didn't offer to pitch in any money towards it. Again it is a situation where my Buddy says he is a nice enough guy but he is using his girlfriend.
I know it gets confusing not using names, but we run into these dilemmas all the time in life and it is so frustrating trying to figure it out. I don't want to piss off my friend but I just want to share. I know relationships need to run their course and there is no rushing it.
I believe that we all chose partners and they are all going to have something that is wrong with them or something that we put up with or ...something, but we love them anyway. I think the thing that I like the least is the smoking. I always imagined one day I would quit, but I really suck at quitting when my husband is a smoker too. So since we have chosen to slowly fill our lungs with tar that is maybe worse then being with someone that is living off of you.
