This is my new segment called the other side of marriage. I feel that I have a very good relationship with my husband. We are best friends, lovers, parents and individuals. Honestly marriage is going much better than I planned and I actually picked someone that I got along with instead of someone that I was just all horned up about. It really bugs me however how he discusses. Sometimes he can have a discussion and other times he gets very defensive if you bring something up. And if there is something that I do that irritates him he will make comments but if I didn't the same things to him he would be pissed and defensive.
It is these subtle things that you learn after you have been together for a long time. I don't have the answer for how to fix these little pissing matches we get into and I don't know if I want to because sometimes I just am crabby like that. I think that after you are married these subtle moments change because before you are married you think "I can just leave" or "I don't want them to leave, what can I do to/for them to make them happy and stay" When you are married it turns into "How can I piss him off more to show him he is being totally ridiculous" You know that neither one of you is going anywhere and you can play power games or you can just get over it and move on. I am a big fan of the get over it and move but it is fun to toy with them a bit before you get over it!
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