I really enjoy being married. It sounds a bit funny to say since we got married 4 months ago it is still new. We have lived together for over 5 years. So I would say that is quite a bit of time to be together. I love Skinner and have become dependent on him. As much as I hate to say that it is true. When you are in a relationship it is nice to know that you can do things yourself, but you also need to allow yourself to rely on and trust the other person. When I was in Australia I got to know this wonderful couple in their fifties. They had been married for almost 40 years and they were in counceling. He was a wonderful man but she just had problems trusting him. He hadn't cheated or abusive. She just wasn't wired to trust. The councelor had them do an exercise. He was to lock the car doors every night for a week and she couldn't nag or even ask if he had. She just had to trust that he would. It was incredible. She lasted a couple of days and then she just had to ask him. We tend to come to rely on our partners, we need to to have a partnership, be a part of a team. We don't know how we ever did it alone, but we have done it alone and someday we will again and we will be alright. Skinner reminds me of that every once in awhile. He is teasing me about something but it is a good reminder that we each have been on our own and while we love having the other person on our "team" we would each be alright on our own and the other person doesn't have to worry we will be alright.
On the other side of the coin when married the other person is always around and always will be. Unless it is scheduled you just aren't going to be sure when you are going to get "me" time. Last night Skinner climbed into bed and while I almost can't fall asleep with out us laying back to back because that has become so much a part of my routine. He brings up the temp. in the bed about a 100 degrees to where I can't sleep. And if he falls asleep first his legs twitch and the heavy breathing (sometimes snoring but not as much as one might think). I just have to get out of there to go to a cooler room.
Funny how people just can't be happy where they are and be thankful for the position they are in.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Sometimes we make bad choices, OWN THEM!
At work I have some wonderful people that I get to be with every day. One of them who is the VP is really nice but she has a real problem telling people when they have done something wrong. There is no need to be nasty about it. All you need to do is ask did you do this? If so it needs to be fixed. Do you need help with that? But instead she will maybe point out directly to you that you did something wrong. Most likely she will address all the lenders saying we all are doing it wrong and then make tons of excuse for why that may have happened. Not being mean at all she just doesn't want to say it is your fault and that was a dumb move. Sometimes I feel myself fall into that making excuses even when I was just human error. It is really hard to get through to her that it was me that made the mistake and I will claim that. I am not going to make up some bullshit excuse when it was just me being stupid one day or I just entered it wrong and I will fix it. The other thing is that there are very few things that can't be fixed. It may seem like things can't be changed but other than death and someone not being in love with you that you are in love with, I can't think of any. In the world that I am raising my children we are so afraid to teach our children to take responsiblity for their actions.
Case in point, in my opinion, one of my neighbors at the age of 36 was sleeping with 15-17 year old girls. He is charged about 6 years ago. He plead kinda guilty. Meaning he would plead guilty but didn't have to say that he was but he thought there would be enough evidence to convict him. After he did that he had to register as a sex offender. He lost his job, but found another one(although it was for a business that wasn't thriving), I am sure he lost friends and so on and so on.
But he came over to our house a couple of times in the last six years. He really is a nice guy. But he doesn't think that he did anything wrong. He just could not understand what the problem was and felt that the County Attorney and the cops were out to get him. I was talking with one of his family members and she said "it isn't always the guys fault you know. Those girls would climb into his bed in the middle of the night. What was he supposed to do. He shouldn't be getting all the blame for it. Those girls should take some of the responsibility." Another family member said in the paper "I can name 20 other guys in this town that are older that are doing the same thing. I don't see why my brother is the one that they are going after." For real people. Yes there are some 15 year old girls that are very mature. But before you fuck them you need to realize that you could go to jail for it if someone got mad about it or turned you in. It is like driving drunk. You get behind the wheel of the car after having a few. You know what the law is. If you get caught own it. It is no one's fault but your own. No one is going to make you get behind the wheel of a car drunk and drive. No one, especially not some 15 year old girl should be able to make a 36 year old man have sex with them. What a load of crap.
Anyway our neighbor just couldn't seem to let it go that he had been told what he did was wrong. He felt that it was totally okay. What is okay about telling people that you only like high school girls because after they graduate they get fat! He appealled the ruling because of a technicality and was going to have a jury trial for each of the 3 girls he allegiedly had realtions with. Keep in mind he never denied having sex with them just that it was wrong. Anyway the jury of course found him guilty of the inappropriate relationship with the first girl and right after that he shot the attorney and one of the witnesses. So then of course he went to jail. But still the family seems to blame everyone else for bad decisions their son made. They are having a hard time putting together that he was a good guy. He did lots of work for elderly people and never charged them or cashed their checks. He loved animals. But he also loved teenage girls and that is just not normal. He could still be a good guy and have something wrong. Not everyone is perfect all the way through. But no one ever said Buddy you made a wrong decision and now you have to pay the consequenes but I still love you. Instead they said Everyone else is doing it so it must be okay for him to do that and there is nothing wrong with you Buddy. Everyone is just out to get you. Personally I think Everyone has better things to do that worry about how to go after one guy.
Anyway take responsibilty when you screw up. It is okay we all do it. Know that you are loved and move on. Do not waste years of your life worrying about one mistake or even a few mistakes. Correct if need be and move on. If you can't correct it, like drinking too much, maybe you have a problem. Like my Dad used to say "If there is something that you have to do, like having a drink or 10 everynight, then you might have a problem. And it isn't very fun for people around you if you get crabby because you haven't had your 5 o'clock cocktail, you really don't have to have that."
Anyway to tell the whole story or at least to this point. Buddy(not his real name of course)has been in jail for about 2 weeks. On Christmas Day he got the flu and that night was sent to the hospital and died the next morning. The whole think is tragic for the family. Hopefully this will bring it all to an end. And they won't want to drag it out. I am hearing more rumors of them filing a lawsuit because he didn't get medical attention right away according to them. Again they are saying this isn't his fault which just pisses me off. He had sex with young girls, he shot a couple of people, he went to jail. You don't get to go see a nurse whenever you want to when you are in jail. Also no one can predict the future. How is a guard who sees you throwing up supposed to know that in 5-8 hours you would be dead. Bad things happen to good people. But good people need to take responsibility when bad things happen. People won't love them any less or think less of them. I just can't stress that enough. We have other things to worry about other than our opinion of other people all the time.
Case in point, in my opinion, one of my neighbors at the age of 36 was sleeping with 15-17 year old girls. He is charged about 6 years ago. He plead kinda guilty. Meaning he would plead guilty but didn't have to say that he was but he thought there would be enough evidence to convict him. After he did that he had to register as a sex offender. He lost his job, but found another one(although it was for a business that wasn't thriving), I am sure he lost friends and so on and so on.
But he came over to our house a couple of times in the last six years. He really is a nice guy. But he doesn't think that he did anything wrong. He just could not understand what the problem was and felt that the County Attorney and the cops were out to get him. I was talking with one of his family members and she said "it isn't always the guys fault you know. Those girls would climb into his bed in the middle of the night. What was he supposed to do. He shouldn't be getting all the blame for it. Those girls should take some of the responsibility." Another family member said in the paper "I can name 20 other guys in this town that are older that are doing the same thing. I don't see why my brother is the one that they are going after." For real people. Yes there are some 15 year old girls that are very mature. But before you fuck them you need to realize that you could go to jail for it if someone got mad about it or turned you in. It is like driving drunk. You get behind the wheel of the car after having a few. You know what the law is. If you get caught own it. It is no one's fault but your own. No one is going to make you get behind the wheel of a car drunk and drive. No one, especially not some 15 year old girl should be able to make a 36 year old man have sex with them. What a load of crap.
Anyway our neighbor just couldn't seem to let it go that he had been told what he did was wrong. He felt that it was totally okay. What is okay about telling people that you only like high school girls because after they graduate they get fat! He appealled the ruling because of a technicality and was going to have a jury trial for each of the 3 girls he allegiedly had realtions with. Keep in mind he never denied having sex with them just that it was wrong. Anyway the jury of course found him guilty of the inappropriate relationship with the first girl and right after that he shot the attorney and one of the witnesses. So then of course he went to jail. But still the family seems to blame everyone else for bad decisions their son made. They are having a hard time putting together that he was a good guy. He did lots of work for elderly people and never charged them or cashed their checks. He loved animals. But he also loved teenage girls and that is just not normal. He could still be a good guy and have something wrong. Not everyone is perfect all the way through. But no one ever said Buddy you made a wrong decision and now you have to pay the consequenes but I still love you. Instead they said Everyone else is doing it so it must be okay for him to do that and there is nothing wrong with you Buddy. Everyone is just out to get you. Personally I think Everyone has better things to do that worry about how to go after one guy.
Anyway take responsibilty when you screw up. It is okay we all do it. Know that you are loved and move on. Do not waste years of your life worrying about one mistake or even a few mistakes. Correct if need be and move on. If you can't correct it, like drinking too much, maybe you have a problem. Like my Dad used to say "If there is something that you have to do, like having a drink or 10 everynight, then you might have a problem. And it isn't very fun for people around you if you get crabby because you haven't had your 5 o'clock cocktail, you really don't have to have that."
Anyway to tell the whole story or at least to this point. Buddy(not his real name of course)has been in jail for about 2 weeks. On Christmas Day he got the flu and that night was sent to the hospital and died the next morning. The whole think is tragic for the family. Hopefully this will bring it all to an end. And they won't want to drag it out. I am hearing more rumors of them filing a lawsuit because he didn't get medical attention right away according to them. Again they are saying this isn't his fault which just pisses me off. He had sex with young girls, he shot a couple of people, he went to jail. You don't get to go see a nurse whenever you want to when you are in jail. Also no one can predict the future. How is a guard who sees you throwing up supposed to know that in 5-8 hours you would be dead. Bad things happen to good people. But good people need to take responsibility when bad things happen. People won't love them any less or think less of them. I just can't stress that enough. We have other things to worry about other than our opinion of other people all the time.
Friday, December 9, 2011
The World today
How does one not get lost in the crappy status of the world today? It is depressing to think about but it is getting harder to afford things, we consume way too much crap, there is crazy violence and corruption.
All I can control is my little part of the world I suppose. Man am I the serious sister or what?! Karli is the one that can make me laugh til I wet my pants. I wonder why that is. She does have the gift of humor naturally. She got all the good stuff. The ability to make people laugh, leadership, people feel they can confide in her, everyone loves her. I am very blessed to have her as my sister and even more blessed to be as close to her as I am. I wish that we were physically closer. It would be great to see her more often. I wonder if we would hang out alot if we lived in the same town. When we lived together we did quite a bit. I wonder if she would ever move back up here? It is nice having a place to stay in Duluth but I am pretty sure I could figure something out.
Skinner was gone to a class overnight this week. We have been together every night for at least a year if not longer. I take that back I was gone for a couple of nights this spring. But it has been a long time that he has been the one to leave the house. It was so strange. I used to be so independent. I still am but at the same time it was one night and instead of relishing it like I used to I was just kind of lost without him there. It was a very strange feeling. It felt a bit like my love for him is growing everyday (sappy I know) but it is really true. I am very lucky to be in the situation instead of thinking what in the hell have I done. He really is my best friend. I am really truly blessed. I also pray that my kids will find that same thing when they decide to get married. My is that a whole nother nightmare to think about. Them getting married. Although I would really like some grandchildren preferably close by.
I wish I had something really inspiring for the day but other than sappy true love and the world falling apart I got nothin'.
All I can control is my little part of the world I suppose. Man am I the serious sister or what?! Karli is the one that can make me laugh til I wet my pants. I wonder why that is. She does have the gift of humor naturally. She got all the good stuff. The ability to make people laugh, leadership, people feel they can confide in her, everyone loves her. I am very blessed to have her as my sister and even more blessed to be as close to her as I am. I wish that we were physically closer. It would be great to see her more often. I wonder if we would hang out alot if we lived in the same town. When we lived together we did quite a bit. I wonder if she would ever move back up here? It is nice having a place to stay in Duluth but I am pretty sure I could figure something out.
Skinner was gone to a class overnight this week. We have been together every night for at least a year if not longer. I take that back I was gone for a couple of nights this spring. But it has been a long time that he has been the one to leave the house. It was so strange. I used to be so independent. I still am but at the same time it was one night and instead of relishing it like I used to I was just kind of lost without him there. It was a very strange feeling. It felt a bit like my love for him is growing everyday (sappy I know) but it is really true. I am very lucky to be in the situation instead of thinking what in the hell have I done. He really is my best friend. I am really truly blessed. I also pray that my kids will find that same thing when they decide to get married. My is that a whole nother nightmare to think about. Them getting married. Although I would really like some grandchildren preferably close by.
I wish I had something really inspiring for the day but other than sappy true love and the world falling apart I got nothin'.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Random
I love Betty White! She is hilarious.
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The other night I was trying to tweeze a whisker from my chin and Kaj asked what I was doing and he goes "Mommy just let it ride."
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I remember my last boyfriend before I was with my husband. He was a super nice guy, I absolutely loved him, I love his family, and I could totally see spending the rest of my life with him. Then my husband came along and I was a little frustrated with my current "kind of" a boyfriend not wanting to move forward with life. I was starting to really get that no body was going to get him to move forward in life (something that is still frustrating) but you can't change people. They will never change. You might get lucky that they change but you can never expect anything to change. People are who they are. So actually the whole thing set me up pretty well for falling for my husband. He accepts you the way you are and don't think for a moment that you will have any chance of changing him. If you want him to change then you are just going to need to go somewhere else. But all through that my sister never said I told you so. When I had my "kind of" a boyfriend she was not comfortable hanging out with him or his family. For a short period of time she would but I could tell that she just didn't want to be around me with them. And she told me too. When we broke up she was relieved because now we could hang out again. There was nothing said we just moved on with life and she enjoyed my new boyfriend and I feel that she is comfortable with us which is a highlight in my life. We don't get to pick who our loved ones choose to love. You just deal with it. It doesn't mean that we are always all going to hang out and smoke the peace pipe. It is an ever changing thing and when people are continuely forced to do things that is when people really start to have problems.
For instance family functions where the people are there who want to be there and a couple who are there because it is their spousal duties is not a bad deal. Only small amounts of guilt would have been applied to make that work. When the guilt is layered on heavy and the expectations that everyone then is going to be happy about being forced to be somewhere, things are not going to go well. Not at all. Relax people. We have an Uncle that didn't meet our step-mother until she had been married to my Dad for 7 years. He came to visit when he wanted to and he had a fine time. Had my Aunt loaded him in her car and drove up here before that I don't think that it would have gone so well. As I recall he and my Aunt even drove seperately. He likes to be able to go when he wants to go. I think it was kind of unheard of for a woman to drive seperatly on a three hour drive, but my quiet Aunt wanted to spend a bit more time with her family. At least that is how I assume it was. We are a good Finnish family and actually discuss what does on is not something that we do.
For instance, my Aunt got divorced and we didn't even know it happened until it was all done. I would say that we are a close family but we that kind of stuff we don't bring up. I even asked my Aunt B how Aunt D was doing and she shrugged her shoulders and said good I think. THEY SPEND EVERY OTHER WEEKEND TOGETHER AND YOU AREN'T TOTALLY SURE HOW THE OTHER ONE IS DOING AND YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT HAPPENED IN THE MARRIAGE?! WHAT?! I will give my Dad credit for trying to be the more communicative person in the family, but he only goes so far as to say if you need anything just let me know. He never pries if after his first test question is met with a very short answer. But that is how they were raised. I remember one holiday we were leaving my Grandparents and my Grandpa was out getting the car ready for us and Grandma was getting us ready to go inside and she said "I am worried about Grandpa I just don't think he is doing very well" and then outside Grandpa said "I am worried about Grandma I just don't think she is doing very well" They sit right next to each other every day but they can't just ask each other or given and honest response. Oh well what do you do. I miss both of them very much. It would be great to be going to their house for Christmas.
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Apple juice controversy: There is news out today that arsnic is in apple juice and unsafe levels of it. We are poisoning our children. Well it is always something new. Here is the thing people "MODERATION". Do not feed your children just apple juice all the time. The same is true for sugar, cheese, ...a little bit of everything. I seriously doubt the people making apple juice our trying to kill our kids. And it is from apples or it is supposed to be so if apples have arsnic in them naturally then either that is how it is supposed to be or we have a bigger problem.
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I really could be a better speller.
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I have been at my job for 6 years now. I really like it, but I wonder with all the moving of jobs I have done before if I will get an itch and need to move on.
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After having a crisis of my Mom dying when I was 13 and my sister 8 I find myself sometimes waiting for the next crisis. It can really ruin my day when I am in that mode.
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Journalling is a wonderful thing that I really need to do more of.
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Hunger Games is a good book
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I miss the old Nancy Drew and Trixie Belden books. I wonder why I never got into the Hardy boys?
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I am really enjoying my life. Sometimes I could be more exciting but I am with my family so that tends to be plenty of excitment.
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I feel bad for and mad at people you don't have any self confindence. We are all wonderful people and our happiness does not depend on what someone else will do or not do. Or on how we look or what we have. Yes some of those things can make you happy for awhile. If my husband does the dishes yes it makes me happy. Yes I might be more inclined to do something for him, but it isn't a requirement to make me happy that he does the dishes.
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I love all my Aunts. But my Auntie K was wonderful during my wedding week. Aunt B and Aunt D saved my butt as well during that week. Really I wish they all lived closer because they are all very fun and relaxed people.
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All of my Uncles current and form were pretty good guys too. At least from what I remember.
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I think perhaps I should stop at this point I can always write more later.
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-M
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The other night I was trying to tweeze a whisker from my chin and Kaj asked what I was doing and he goes "Mommy just let it ride."
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I remember my last boyfriend before I was with my husband. He was a super nice guy, I absolutely loved him, I love his family, and I could totally see spending the rest of my life with him. Then my husband came along and I was a little frustrated with my current "kind of" a boyfriend not wanting to move forward with life. I was starting to really get that no body was going to get him to move forward in life (something that is still frustrating) but you can't change people. They will never change. You might get lucky that they change but you can never expect anything to change. People are who they are. So actually the whole thing set me up pretty well for falling for my husband. He accepts you the way you are and don't think for a moment that you will have any chance of changing him. If you want him to change then you are just going to need to go somewhere else. But all through that my sister never said I told you so. When I had my "kind of" a boyfriend she was not comfortable hanging out with him or his family. For a short period of time she would but I could tell that she just didn't want to be around me with them. And she told me too. When we broke up she was relieved because now we could hang out again. There was nothing said we just moved on with life and she enjoyed my new boyfriend and I feel that she is comfortable with us which is a highlight in my life. We don't get to pick who our loved ones choose to love. You just deal with it. It doesn't mean that we are always all going to hang out and smoke the peace pipe. It is an ever changing thing and when people are continuely forced to do things that is when people really start to have problems.
For instance family functions where the people are there who want to be there and a couple who are there because it is their spousal duties is not a bad deal. Only small amounts of guilt would have been applied to make that work. When the guilt is layered on heavy and the expectations that everyone then is going to be happy about being forced to be somewhere, things are not going to go well. Not at all. Relax people. We have an Uncle that didn't meet our step-mother until she had been married to my Dad for 7 years. He came to visit when he wanted to and he had a fine time. Had my Aunt loaded him in her car and drove up here before that I don't think that it would have gone so well. As I recall he and my Aunt even drove seperately. He likes to be able to go when he wants to go. I think it was kind of unheard of for a woman to drive seperatly on a three hour drive, but my quiet Aunt wanted to spend a bit more time with her family. At least that is how I assume it was. We are a good Finnish family and actually discuss what does on is not something that we do.
For instance, my Aunt got divorced and we didn't even know it happened until it was all done. I would say that we are a close family but we that kind of stuff we don't bring up. I even asked my Aunt B how Aunt D was doing and she shrugged her shoulders and said good I think. THEY SPEND EVERY OTHER WEEKEND TOGETHER AND YOU AREN'T TOTALLY SURE HOW THE OTHER ONE IS DOING AND YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT HAPPENED IN THE MARRIAGE?! WHAT?! I will give my Dad credit for trying to be the more communicative person in the family, but he only goes so far as to say if you need anything just let me know. He never pries if after his first test question is met with a very short answer. But that is how they were raised. I remember one holiday we were leaving my Grandparents and my Grandpa was out getting the car ready for us and Grandma was getting us ready to go inside and she said "I am worried about Grandpa I just don't think he is doing very well" and then outside Grandpa said "I am worried about Grandma I just don't think she is doing very well" They sit right next to each other every day but they can't just ask each other or given and honest response. Oh well what do you do. I miss both of them very much. It would be great to be going to their house for Christmas.
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Apple juice controversy: There is news out today that arsnic is in apple juice and unsafe levels of it. We are poisoning our children. Well it is always something new. Here is the thing people "MODERATION". Do not feed your children just apple juice all the time. The same is true for sugar, cheese, ...a little bit of everything. I seriously doubt the people making apple juice our trying to kill our kids. And it is from apples or it is supposed to be so if apples have arsnic in them naturally then either that is how it is supposed to be or we have a bigger problem.
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I really could be a better speller.
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I have been at my job for 6 years now. I really like it, but I wonder with all the moving of jobs I have done before if I will get an itch and need to move on.
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After having a crisis of my Mom dying when I was 13 and my sister 8 I find myself sometimes waiting for the next crisis. It can really ruin my day when I am in that mode.
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Journalling is a wonderful thing that I really need to do more of.
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Hunger Games is a good book
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I miss the old Nancy Drew and Trixie Belden books. I wonder why I never got into the Hardy boys?
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I am really enjoying my life. Sometimes I could be more exciting but I am with my family so that tends to be plenty of excitment.
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I feel bad for and mad at people you don't have any self confindence. We are all wonderful people and our happiness does not depend on what someone else will do or not do. Or on how we look or what we have. Yes some of those things can make you happy for awhile. If my husband does the dishes yes it makes me happy. Yes I might be more inclined to do something for him, but it isn't a requirement to make me happy that he does the dishes.
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I love all my Aunts. But my Auntie K was wonderful during my wedding week. Aunt B and Aunt D saved my butt as well during that week. Really I wish they all lived closer because they are all very fun and relaxed people.
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All of my Uncles current and form were pretty good guys too. At least from what I remember.
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I think perhaps I should stop at this point I can always write more later.
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-M
Friday, November 25, 2011
Characters
It is always fun to see who shows up for holidays and how everyone fits together. Since the introduction of wine to family gatherings I must say that everyone fits together better and better every year.
The Aunts I am getting to know a bit better every year. If I thought my Dad was Finnish they are the poster children for the reserved Scandinavians. I love getting to know them as adults and embarass them a bit. Neither one of them had children but they seem totally fascinated by my son. They have been asking to have him for an overnight since he was a baby but they want him potty trained first! How I talk about them you would think they maybe live together but they don't. One lives in the cities the other on the range. The City Aunt comes up to see the Range Aunt about every other week. The City Aunt is married but her husband doesn't seem to leave the house at all. It was seven years from the time my Dad married my stepmom before my stepmother met my City Uncle. I really like him and I like the fact that is a bit funny like that. My Range Aunt was married to a cop and I really like him as well. But one day she called out of the blue and said they were divorced. What the?! I didn't ask too many questions. I asked the City Aunt what happened and she had no idea. She said the Range Aunt didn't talk about it and she didn't ask. I can't imagine not getting into that one with my sister. But on the other hand maybe my sister would appreciate it a bit more if I was like City Aunt!
The Aunts I am getting to know a bit better every year. If I thought my Dad was Finnish they are the poster children for the reserved Scandinavians. I love getting to know them as adults and embarass them a bit. Neither one of them had children but they seem totally fascinated by my son. They have been asking to have him for an overnight since he was a baby but they want him potty trained first! How I talk about them you would think they maybe live together but they don't. One lives in the cities the other on the range. The City Aunt comes up to see the Range Aunt about every other week. The City Aunt is married but her husband doesn't seem to leave the house at all. It was seven years from the time my Dad married my stepmom before my stepmother met my City Uncle. I really like him and I like the fact that is a bit funny like that. My Range Aunt was married to a cop and I really like him as well. But one day she called out of the blue and said they were divorced. What the?! I didn't ask too many questions. I asked the City Aunt what happened and she had no idea. She said the Range Aunt didn't talk about it and she didn't ask. I can't imagine not getting into that one with my sister. But on the other hand maybe my sister would appreciate it a bit more if I was like City Aunt!
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Holiday's, Arg!!
Oh the Holidays, they are upon us. Tis the season to be merry or tis the season to dread. My sister and I have had our fair shares of both. Multiple Christmas's in multiple locations, Thanksgiving at a restaurant or Thanksgiving at an assisted living home. I know it sounds cheesy, but as long as you are with family, maybe not even yours, holidays can be good. But I still can't shake the dread that they may be the most stressful time of the year. I have a job that requires me to work most of the holidays, if not all of them. My family has adapted many traditions to suit my work, therefor I am thankful. We celebrate Christmas, 3 days after actual Christmas. Thanksgiving at a restaurant was due to it being across the street form work and I could walk over, eat, and walk back to work without skipping a beat (and don't forget not having any dishes, that was a bonus). By the way, Thanksgiving is a holiday that is often forgotten about. It hasn't even happened yet but Black Friday is coming soon.
I have had the last two days off and can't afford to shop. I can't afford to decorate. I occasionally look at the computer and pick out things that I would have bought for fun. I have a fresh look on what it means to cut coupons and shop with a shopping list at the grocery store. And currently, due to my lack of green, I am thinking about what I can make for everyone for Christmas. Who knew it was so expensive to own a house, yes, you know the mortgage, but no one tells you that the bills are what will bring you down.
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Technology
It is funny that you posted about cell phones and TV because I have been thinking a lot about those things and maybe we could go with out or should go without. I also have been thinking about how much has already changed in the world since we were born.
I just got back from a funeral for a woman that was 99 years old(Skinner's Aunt Olga). Think about what she had when she was born. Nothing. Maybe a couple of outfits, certainly not a care, no phone, no TV, no radio. And now at the time she died we are all so lazy letting technology do so much for us.
For the record I am a couch potato and I do have a cell phone although I never have it with me unless I am expecting a call or am traveling.
About the whole billionaire thing. If you can come up with an idea I will front you the $750. The problem these days is there are so many rules/regulations and so many people that want to help you that are just scammers. I would just be happy with making enough to get what I want and still have money left over to put away for a rainy day. And not be so worried about how to pay the bills.
I just got back from a funeral for a woman that was 99 years old(Skinner's Aunt Olga). Think about what she had when she was born. Nothing. Maybe a couple of outfits, certainly not a care, no phone, no TV, no radio. And now at the time she died we are all so lazy letting technology do so much for us.
For the record I am a couch potato and I do have a cell phone although I never have it with me unless I am expecting a call or am traveling.
About the whole billionaire thing. If you can come up with an idea I will front you the $750. The problem these days is there are so many rules/regulations and so many people that want to help you that are just scammers. I would just be happy with making enough to get what I want and still have money left over to put away for a rainy day. And not be so worried about how to pay the bills.
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